Charmed or Blessed?

So recently I have had a few of my friends tell me that they are jealous of my life and happiness.. Ha when I hear that, all I can think is wow they really don't know me... However my mom has always said I have had a charmed life and I feel that I am not charmed but that I am blessed for my actions. Some struggles that I have seen my friends struggle with I have not had to struggle with but that is because I do everything I can to follow the gospel and to do what I know is right. I just happened to find a young man that is the same way. Believe me I have a had my fair share of trials, more like each and everyday, but my fiance taught me something last month that will always stick with me.. HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE, it's an action that we must show or try to do. So as I have gone through these past stressful months I truly try to keep that in mind, even though it it's so hard. I feel that if girls/women could see the reality of the world instead of a fantasy life would be some what easier. I will remember going to see the movie, The Vow, with my mom and sister and when we came out my sister said that she didn't like it, however my mom and I loved it! We saw the reality of life through the movie. It is not like most love stories because it didn't make it typical or into this love fantasy.. It was a real story of how the world works, its hard to make hard decisions.. However we make hard decisions everyday! I feel that youth and a lot of women forget that we chose to come to earth to make hard decisions that sometimes we don't like. Also compromise is huge, I can say from experience that it is hard to compromise, however with Robbie we have worked on a lot of this. I guess I always have to think of the talk Dieter F. Uchtdorf gave in 2010 at a Young Women's broadcast http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2010/04/your-happily-ever-after?lang=eng&query=happily+ever+after I remember how I had a fantasy in my head how life should be, but when he spoke about having my own happily ever after! And wow I have worked really hard for this moment in my life to get married in the temple! I want people to know that life is hard! But we can have our happily ever after! Shnel

Planning a Wedding

So there is nothing like planning a wedding... This is why, there is so much going into a wedding and so much to think about.. First you have the prep work, which consists of you and your fiance figuring out the basic information such as date, colors, when and where.. Thats the easy part.. Then you have to prepare yourselves for marriage before you even get married and think about everything after the wedding however that comes a little later.. Second you have the wedding planning, this consists of talking with your mom and soon to be mother-in-law about what you want to do and how everything is going to look. This also all comes don to the dress, bridesmaid, grooms men, family(on both sides. How you are going to decorate, what food you are going to have, how much money you have to spend, how you want the reception to look, what you can compromise on.. Where the honeymoon is going to be.. Third what the plans are after the honeymoon, where are you going live, who is paying for what, are you getting joint accounts, and the list goes on and on... However even with the stress of planning everything and hoping it all goes well.. It all boils down to one thing.. You and the person standing next to you! If you can both compromise and come to conclusions on things life will all work out. If anything I have learned is that Robbie and I can talk to each other even if we upset each other.. However always ALWAYS REMEMBER that you always love each other, you just don't have to like them for that moment! Because those little things that bug us and drive us crazy end up making us a couple and we learn from each others mistakes. Also never have expectations for one another! If you do talk about them and see if they are rational! Robbie and I talk about this a lot.. because you think you don't have expectation however after LOVE LAND has disappeared you come back to reality and realize things that you never have. Rob and I are both LDS (Latter-day Saints) we live to the standards of the church and we both have never done anything with another person! That is amazing to me that we both have the self-control and mind set to do that.. But that also brings concerns and possible expectations.. Talk to each other about it even if you are living together or so forth.. It never hurts to have communication on everything.. It maybe awkward at first but I can tell you hard things to talk about become easier! I'm not married yet but these are things that Rob and I have done and gone through so far.. Its great to know that I am not scared of my fiance judging me and not loving me for giving my opinion or thoughts! Just thought I would give you all so updates and advice.. =)